Experiencing Bias

I do know how it feels to be in an unfamiliar culture with people speaking an unfamiliar language. My husband is originally from Serbia. For this reason, we go to Serbian church, Serbian stores and Serbian restaurants. I, however, do not speak Serbian, and still, after many years, feel unfamiliar and uncomfortable with the Serbian culture. whenever I am with Serbian people, I feel very awkward and shy. I also feel very stupid and childish because I have a difficult time following conversations and understanding what is happening around me. I have my husband to translate and explain for me, and people are always kind and understanding, but the translation and smiles from people often leave me feeling more incompetent, and wishing nobody were paying attention to me. These situations do not last long for me, and I am able to leave these specific places and immediately return to the world I am accustomed to, but this has made me more sensitive to immigrant families who only have their homes and possibly a small community in which to feel comfortable, confident, and able to be themselves.

So, I already know what it is to feel awkward in different cultural situations. The assignment, though is to consider how it would be to be on the tail end of bias situations. I imagine that it would be so hurtful and damaging to my self esteem if I not only were left feeling uncomfortable but were treated with bias as well. Bias is hateful treatment of a person due to differences from self. If I were to go to a pace where I not only felt uncomfortable and awkward but was treated in negative ways due to others perceptions of me, it would be extremely difficult to even attempt to risk communicating or even drawing attention to myself due to fear of poor treatment. I would not want to return to that place, and if I had to return, I would keep myself to myself. I cannot imagine I would be able to do a good job or be at all productive within this type of environment.

Communication Observation

Today I observed a man who was out sledding with his young son. The boy appeared to be about six or seven years old.

The boy was talking excitedly and constantly about his experiences on the sled. He was telling his father every detail of his ride down the hill, watching other people sled and talking about them, making noises when it looked like people might crash or fall, and laughing loudly. The man, on the other hand was pretty quiet and stoic, but smiling and nodding at his excited son.

The little boy was trying different ways of riding the sled down the hill. Sometimes sitting, sometimes lying down, sometimes backwards, sometimes alone, and sometimes with his father. He would tell his father, each time, how he wanted to go down the hill, and then his father would help him onto the sled and help him start going down the hill. When the father didn't sled with his son, he would walk down the hill in order to help the boy drag the sled back up.

Even though the father wasn't doing a lot of talking, I thought their communication was great. The boy clearly felt appreciated and heard and free to talk. The father clearly listened to his son because he helped him sled in the different ways that he described. The father never told the son how to do things or how not to do them. He simply listened and supported his son in his ideas.

I thought a lot about the idea of stepping back and listening to children without looking for particular responses or coaching them into the responses we want them to have. This father stepped back, listened and supported, and therefore, his son felt happy and confident and willing to take risks and try new things. Also the fathers body language and facial expression showed that he was enjoying listening to what his son had to say.

Family Childcare Home

My actual home childcare center dream would be to have a co-op program on a large piece of land that would focus on nature education. I would choose to create a co-op program because it would give families the opportunity to volunteer time in lieu of money so that they could receive quality care at a discounted rate, as well as be a part of the culture of the program.

My vision is to have an outdoor classroom with a community garden, farm animals, a pond and a forested area. One thing that all cultures in the world do share is a connection to the earth for food, water, air and materials. Children need to spend time in nature in order to feel that connection for themselves. Once they feel that connection,they can really feel that they are part of the global community and they can better appreciate the contributions and connections of other cultures.

Another great way of sharing cultures is sharing foods. One way I would like to integrate this into my program would be to grow the foods from the families cultures that can be grown here. I would also ask the parents to share recipes or foods from their culture with the entire group. I would like to have family pot lucks where everyone would share family foods with each other.

Language and artifacts would also be a very important part of my program. I would ask families to share items from their home cultures and to teach us some of their home language and these things would be integrated into our program.

Of course, I would also include multicultural costumes, play foods, instruments, dolls, toy houses and material.

Goals and Thanks

In every sense, the world is becoming a smaller place. As a result do easier travel, media and computers, we are exposed to and will continue to be exposed to many more people, cultures and ideas than ever before. In order for peace to someday reign on earth, it is important to create a generation of tolerance and respect for self and others. My main goal in Early Childhood Education is to instill a sense of respect and acceptance for self and others. If all children were raised in this spirit, this upcoming generation would be the first to embrace differences and work together for the good of all mankind.

I would like to thank my colleagues for their great insights and interesting discussions throughout this semester. I have learned so much and seen new ways of looking at issues. It has been a pleasure working with all of you.

My collage displays people from different cultures and different families working, learning and living in harmony.  The words represent the traits needed to ensure positive relationships in a multicultural world.

Looking Away

I thought a lot about times when I have told children not to mention other's disabilities or skin color or gender identity, and I couldn't think of any. I think I am pretty good about explaining things to children and being open with them about why people are different in these ways.

One thing, however, that I have hushed children about is commenting on people's weight. I struggle with weight issues, myself, and possibly this is part of the reason I react as I do about children calling people fat. I have told children that it is unfriendly and hurtful to talk about others weight - even if they are simply making an observation and not being judgmental (which is often the case).

When I think about it, though, telling children not to mention weight and telling them that making the observation that someone is fat really teaches them that there is something wrong with overweight people. It teaches them that weight is something shameful. It perpetuates the idea that only thin people are beautiful.

Perhaps discussions of weight should be the same as discussions of skin color or disability. Children just need to be told that all people look different, and that it is all equally beautiful.

Young children, from birth, are inundated with ideas about gender roles. There are products that are sold for female children and products that are sold for boy children. Society looks frowning ky on anyone who does not push these gender specific products on their children, and children are told, from a young age, not to interact with items meant for the opposite sex. These toys reflect our overriding ideas about the roles of men and women in society. Even though we live in an age where women are equally as likely to work outside of the home as men are, it is still considered normal for women to take on the housekeeping role as well. It is also thought that boys should be active and athletic while girls are calm and do,estic. Products and children's books predominantly reflect these gender roles.

I recently read a newspaper article about a young couple who had a baby. This couple decided not to tell anyone the sex of their child so that the child would not be influenced by gender role ideas of others and of society as a whole. Interestingly, many people are upset by this couples actions and there was an outcry of outrage at their idea of raising there baby as a gender less being in the early years. Many people saw the idea of allowing the child to choose their likes and dislikes without pressure from the outside world to fit into a pre conceived role as a form of irresponsible parenting. Many felt that this was setting the child up to be different from other members of society, which would ultimately cause problems in the child's life. It is an interesting story, and it is yet to be determined if this couple must reveal the gender of their child to the world. I, however, feel that raising children without gender pressures would actually help them to feel confident about who they are whether or not they fit into what is commonly believed to be normal. Maybe we shouldn't be so concerned with boys being boys and girls being girls, and be more concerned with children feeling good about who they are.